Men’s Counselling
Counselling for Men in London and Essex
I specialise in counselling for men, currently offering face-to-face and online sessions.
We lose too many men to suicide each year, believing they would be better off dead. The fear, shame, embarrassment, and expectations placed on men prevent them from seeking counselling, or any support for their well-being and mental health.
In 2022 three quarters of suicides registered were men. 4179 deaths: 74.1%, equivalent to 16.4 deaths per 100,000.
Suicides recorded were highest in men aged 90 or over, then followed by men aged 45-49.
Challenges Men Face in Seeking Support
Why Men Don’t Reach Out
Research has shown men are less likely to reach out for support with their physical and mental health, suggesting men feel they cannot speak to a stranger, let alone someone they know.
Societal expectations deem men “should” be tough and suppress their emotions, needs, and wants.
Men’s mental health still has so much stigma surrounding it. It is gaining more attention and awareness, however, it remains a massive issue.
Cultural and Social Pressures
Traditionally, men are expected to be strong, stoic, the man of the house, not displaying any vulnerability or emotional expression, needless to say, discouraged from seeking help and support.
Men are often expected to suppress their emotions at the risk of their mental health declining. It is deemed by society as weak and told to “manup”.
The Consequences of Silence
With this stigma attached, men are reluctant to seek out professional help, resulting in unhealthy coping mechanisms, addictions, self-harm and the worst being suicide. Men are discouraged from engaging in counselling for fear of being perceived as weak.
Young men are taught that certain parts of their personalities are unacceptable, such as expressing an array of feelings, crying, or being vulnerable.
Societal perceptions lead to shame, fear, silence, and isolation. Outdated beliefs and views of how a man “should be” are incredibly harmful and this needs to change.
I specialise in helping men find their voice, deep dive into who they are, express their emotions, and be heard without judgment. Encouraging men to show up for themselves and understand all parts of who they are.
Get in touch
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.
You can also call me on 07449339151 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.
Frequently asked questions
Counselling is a safe space for you to explore you as a whole, including your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, helping you to understand certain aspects of you and significant others in your life, the main focus being on you. Working through your fears, anxieties, grief.
Each session is 50 minutes (Therapeutic hour).
Ideally weekly on the same day/time. This is in order for the therapeutic relationship to establish and you to begin to trust your therapist. Also, to gain the most from sessions, feeling comfortable to express and explore how you are feeling.
We offer short- and long-term sessions, depending on what you are hoping to gain. You can speak with your therapist in the first session about your needs and requirements. There are no fixed number of sessions, you are in control and can end whenever you feel appropriate. We would request notice prior to ending so we can end the therapeutic relationship accordingly.
It will as long as it is safe to do so, we have a legal and ethical obligation to break confidentiality if we feel you are of harm to yourself or others, particularly children or vulnerable adults. As well as any serious criminal activity, such as an act of terrorism. Child protection or money laundering.
Of course, if you need to change an appointment day/time. If you feel you are in need of urgent help, then please call 999 or contact Samaritans on 116 123 if you need to speak to someone in-between sessions.
My location
My practice is based in Brentwood, Romford and Barkingside.
In addition to providing face-to-face therapy, I also offer online sessions via Zoom, Microsoft Teams and Google Meet. Contact me to find out more about how online therapy works.
Fees & availability
Sessions are 50 minutes, ideally weekly, and my fee is £75-£90 per session. I offer a limited amount of concessions, please message me to find out more. There is a 48 hour cancellation policy, otherwise full fee is required.
Mental Health Helplines:
Urgent support
In an emergency call 111 or 999
Samaritans – 24/7 helpline 116 123 or email
Childline – Private and confidential support for anyone under 19 in the UK. Call 0800 11111 or One-to-one online chat with a counsellor
Papyrus Prevention of young suicide – Call 0800 068 4141 or text 07860 039967
The Silver Line – Free confidential helpline run by Age UK, for older people. Call 0800 4 70 80 90